You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation - By Deborah Tannen

Book Description

Women and men live in different worlds...made of different words. Spending nearly four years on the New York Times bestseller list, including eight months at number one, You Just Don't Understand is a true cultural and intellectual phenomenon. This is the book that brought gender differences in ways of speaking to the forefront of public awareness. With a rare combination of scientific insight and delightful, humorous writing, Tannen shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said.

Studded with lively and entertaining examples of real conversations, this book gives you the tools to understand what went wrong -- and to find a common language in which to strengthen relationships at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations, this book will change forever the way you approach conversations.

About the Author

Deborah Tannen is author of You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation (a New York Times bestseller nearly four years), That's Not What I Meant!: How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships, and many other books and articles. University Professor and professor of linguistics at Georgetown University, she has also been McGraw Distinguished Lecturer at Princeton University.

From Publishers Weekly

Georgetown University linguistics professor Tannen here ponders gender-based differences that, she claims, define and distinguish male and female communication. Opening with the rationale that ignoring such differences is more dangerous than blissful, she asserts that for most women conversation is a way of connecting and negotiating. Thus, their parleys tend to center on expressions of and responses to feelings, or what the author labels "rapport-talk" (private conversation). Men, on the other hand, use conversation to achieve or maintain social status; they set out to impart knowledge (termed "report-talk," or public speaking). Calling on her research into the workings of dialogue, Tannen examines the functioning of argument and interruption, and convincingly supports her case for the existence of "genderlect," contending that the better we understand it, the better our chances of bridging the communications gap integral to the battle of the sexes.

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus - The Classic Guide To Understanding The Opposite Sex - By John Gray

Book Description
Once upon a time, Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in :they forgot they were from different planets.

About the Author

John Gray, Ph.D., an internationally recognized expert in the fields of communication and relationships, and the author of twelve bestsellers, has been conducting personal-growth seminars for thirty years. He is a Certified Family Therapist (National Academy for Certified Family Therapists), a consulting editor of the Family Journal, a member of the Distinguished Advisory Board of the international Association of Marriage and Family Counselors, and a member of the American Counseling Association. John lives with his wife and three children in Northern California.

From Publishers Weekly

Psychotherapist Gray ( What You Feel You Can Heal ) adds to the growing number of self-help books that assess marital and relationship problems in terms of distinct and pervasive gender differences. Unfortunately, his overuse of gimmicky, often silly analogies and metaphors makes his otherwise down-to-earth guide hard to take seriously. Here Martians (men) play Mr. Fix-It while Venusians (women) run the Home-Improvement Committee; when upset, Martians "go to their caves" (to sort things out alone) while Venusians "go to the well" (for emotional cleansing). While graphically illustrative, the hyperbolic, overextended comparisons, particularly in the chapters that refer to men as rubber bands and women as waves, significantly detract from Gray's realistic insights. Copyright 1992 Reed Business Information, Inc

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The Leader Within

Discover the leader inside you!
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MICHAEL O'CONNOR co-founded and directs the Center for Managing by Values. He specializes in strategy, behavior, and process-driven performance. With Ken Blanchard, he co-authored Managing by Values.

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The Ripple Effect: How the Global Mode of Endorsement Opens Doors to Success by Judy Suiter

The Ripple Effect: How the Global Model of Endorsement Opens Doors to Success is Judy Suiter's final installment of her triology on human behavior. The Ripple Effect teaches you how to build strong networks of support through increased influence and credibility. The prinicples of endorsement are at work all around us, and Judy shows us how to recognize and cultivate them.

Hardball for Women by Pat Heim

In this constructive, no-nonsense guide, business consultant Heim addresses women executives who, despite technical proficiency, hard work and managerial skills equal or superior to those of their male co-workers, have been passed over for promotions. With Golant ( No More Hysterectomies ), she stresses the need for women to study the sports-modeled, competitive culture of men, focused on money and status, and to learn to work according to its rules without betraying their "inner selves." Using sports jargon and examples, she advises such techniques as attacking a problem--not the person responsible--adhering to team goals and accepting criticism from a "coach." She also offers valuable tips on positive body language (no tears), dressing and more, and reminds women that "in a man's world--as in sports--winning is all that matters."

Jump Start Your Brain by Doug Hall

The techniques for jump-starting your brain are wacky as presented here by freelancer Wecker and Hall, founder of the Richard Saunders International Eureka! Mansion in Cincinnati, Ohio, home of the Eureka! Stimulus Response learning system, which taps into your B.O.S., or Brain Operating System. (If you're wondering why a guy named Hall would call his school Richard Saunders?it was Benjamin Franklin's pen name). Frequently quoting Franklin and Hall's five-year-old daughter Kristyn, the authors set about turning readers into Trained Brains. They suggest you become adventurous ("Have dinner at the fourteenth restaurant listed in the yellow pages"), believe in magic, analyze yourself (do you see yourself as sophisticated? boring?) and relax your dressing style ("Wearing a tie to a Eureka! Stimulus Response effort is a hanging offense"). Readers are likely to find the toys in this playpen too distracting to move on to problem solving.

Thinkertoys by Michael Michalko

"Thinkertoys: A Handbook of Business Creativity For the 90s" by Michael Michalko is like a printed Swiss Army Knife – it’s a multipurpose collection of idea-generation techniques that should be on every innovator’s bookshelf.

If you visit any book store these days, you’ll see a wide variety of creativity and innovation-related titles. But few are as accessible and useful as Thinkertoys. The tone of this book is playful yet purposeful: author Michalko walks you through the "how-to’s" of a cornucopia of creativity exercises and techniques - plus practical examples and suggestions on how to use them. In addition, the book features many helpful and playful illustrations, giving the impression that creativity is not only a valuable executive skill to cultivate, but it can also be fun and invigorating!

Thinkertoys opens with several chapters of practical advice on why you should be creative and the basics of a creative mindset and how to cultivate it. If you’re just starting out in your search for creativity and innovation tools and techniques, you should find this section of the book inspiring and liberating. The book then swings into a wide-ranging collection of linear (left-brained) idea-generating techniques as well as a fascinating collection of intuitive and visually-oriented (right-brained) exercises.

You’ll find yourself inspired and invigorated as you read through Michalko´s compelling explanations and insightful stories, and you’ll also find yourself pulling Thinkertoys off your bookshelf on a regular basis as a practical catalyst for generating innovative new ideas.

Lighten Up by C. W. Metcalf

These very funny (sometimes hilarious) tapes are generally designed for the average person to bring more enjoyment, productivity, humor and health to their lives (with a tad bit of scientific data so we can understand the full positive effects of humor). But two of my sisters (who both work in the field of psychotherapy) bought me these tapes after an ever-worsening 24-year marriage had slowly evolved into such a controlling and very abusive relationship that I was so depressed and so afraid of people that I was literally homebound and handicapped. I honestly believe that this very humorous audio set has done more to heal my spirit, my perspectives and my self esteem than five years of therapy would have done!! W.C. Metcalf has taught me how to use humor and an appreciation for the simple joys of being human to completely change my outlook (and my life).. so much so, that I'm ready to start anew, and with a fabulous attitude and wonderfully rejuvenated sense of humor! Although this series focuses mainly on work place scenarios and various inconsiderate jerks in our lives who unintentionally destroy our sense of humor and our full appreciation of life, C.W. Metcalf does touch on his experiences of being an abused child... BUT ONLY to prove that we can all overcome any adversities and learn to enjoy every aspect of living to a much fuller extent... if we just learn to develop a better perspective and rejuvenate our own natural sense of humor (he gives us exercises for this task). I have no doubt that absolutely every human on earth would come to enjoy life more and become a much better, more enjoyable person for themselves and everyone they know by listening to this very wise, entertaining and very funny series of tapes.

301 Ways To Have Fun At Work by Hemsath & Yerkes

Dave Hemsath and Leslie Yerkes have long believed that work need not be bland and boring, and that a fun workplace is truly more productive than a dull one. To check their theory, they asked successful businesspeople worldwide if fun played a part in their corporate culture--and, if so, how it was actually manifested in everyday life. 301 Ways to Have Fun at Work is their lighthearted compendium of the most useful and creative replies.

Managing To Have Fun by Matt Weinstein

Founder of Playfair Inc., a management consulting firm, Weinstein has put into practice many of the innovative motivational techniques prescribed in this manual. The keystone of this approach for businesses interested in team building for increased profitability is "fun in the workplace." Extrapolating from the free-form corporate culture evidently prevailing at Playfair, Weinstein outlines programs, both short- and long-term, that incorporate the intentional use of fun and play on the job in a way intended to promote professional community and enhance productivity at all levels. In a sampling of case presentations, Weinstein demonstrates activities that soften initial skepticism of CEOs, suggest non-embarrassing ways for personnel to interact socially and utilize humor as a humanizing element. "The company that plays together stays together" is the motto of this creative approach to management style and job satisfaction.

Fundraising for the Small Community by Kelvin Kent

"Fundraising for the Small Community" is a grass roots, practical guide, that all non profit organizations should read. It is designed for CEOs, Directors, Boards and everyone who undertakes the task of raising money.
The focus is on the needs of the smaller community. Whether it is how to form a 501(c)(3), understand grant procedures. church funding, or plan a major capital project campaign, Kent provides highly practical examples of how to do it.

The psychology and methods necessary to be successful are all explained in a simple, effective manner by one whose track record in this field is legend.

Secrets of Successful Boards by Carol Weisman

Sitting in a board room are people with different points of view, different voices, and different styles, which is why Carol's colleages share their expertise, joys, and insights in this book. No attempt was made at uniformity other than spelling, grammar and punctuation.
The purpose of this book is to give board member some tools and advice on how to do well. This book is not a book of best practices, but rather, like a board, the opinion of many different folks. Carol has two unique talents. The most unusual is her uncanny ability to get upgrades on airplanes. The other is recruiting marvelous people to get involved in exciting projects. This book will help you share your unique talents so as to achoeve the mission of a group you care about.

Secrets of Successful Fundraising by Carol Weisman

19 nonprofit gurus share their fundraising secrets. Chapters include: board involvement, feasibility studies, generating multiple revenue streams, hiring consultants, special events, direct mail, planned giving, grants, major gifts, cause related marketing, corporate giving, internet fundraising, social entrepreneurism, newsletters, accounting 101, strategic alliances, and donor recognition.

First Aid for Meetings by Charlie Hawkins

"First Aid for Meetings" is a complete reference to running meetings on purpose, on time and for results. Filled with common sense and uncommon wisdom, Charlie Hawkins provide strategies, tips and tools that will improve the planning and effectiveness of every meeting.

Robert’s Rules of Order by Major Henry M. Robert, revised by Darwin Patnode, Ph. D

Since Robert's Rules of Order first was published in 1896, it's been the means to orderly, smooth, and fairly conducted meetings. This ninth edition of the famous manual of parliamentary procedure includes everything from the first edition, but all of the information is clarified, cross-referenced, and carefully indexed. "Where there is no law, but every man does what is right in his own eyes, there is the least of real liberty," said General Henry M. Robert, and his gift of order is as indispensable now as it was a century ago.

8 Essential Steps to Conflict Resolution by Dudley Weeks

7 Habits of Highly Effective People (on CD) by Stephen Covey

Delivered with one of the most genuine voices in the personal development field, the principles in Covey's 1989 bestseller are placed in a new frame by the author's thoughtful comments before and after the unabridged text. The meat of this thinking is well known: Take the initiative, align behavior with beliefs, form partnerships with people you understand and respect, develop yourself. These lessons are still relevant to finding one's rudder in a world that doesn't tell one how and provides no compass. With corporations obsessing over this week's numbers instead of their human capital, Covey's talent for speaking to our deepest aspirations takes center stage again in a lively audio learning experience. T.W. © AudioFile 2004, Portland, Maine-- Copyright © AudioFile, Portland, Maine

Life Mapping by Bill Cohen

A practical, proven, hands-on program for discovering and using the true values and inner power that are the keys to a better, happier life
What's the most important thing you will do in your lifetime? Make that first million? Raise a happy family? Find the cure for cancer? Each is a fine goal, but how do you know that it will bring you happiness?

Bill Cohen, creator and teacher of a popular course called Life Mapping, shows us how to achieve personal fulfillment in our lives. In an era when it seems that few people take responsibility for their own actions, this book asserts that only by embracing responsibility can we find vital, satisfying answers -- and goes on to demonstrate step by step a practical program for identifying and removing the conflicts that separate us from our true selves.Developed over sixteen years, Life Mapping is an effective technique for determining our real beliefs and principles and then matching them to appropriate goals that support rather than undermine the integrity and spiritual power that is inherent in everyone. The author guides us through the entire process of creating unique, individualized Life Maps based on our own natures. Each one is different; this is no cookie-cutter prescription. But it isn't hard and it has already helped thousands to plan and organize their lives better, and find the balance and satisfaction that seem so elusive in the modern world.

Time Management for Unmanageable People by Anne Mcgee - Cooper

Gives a practical and professionally proven approach-based on the latest research on brain function and stress reduction. The guilt-free way to organize, energize, and maximize your life.

The Performance Factor by Pat MacMillan

As the tides of all the trendy business initiatives from the last twenty years have all disappeared, one concept has remained in their wake and continues to thrive today: team strategies. When implemented correctly, the results are impressive. Organizations—whether they are corporations or ministries—have successfully developed team strategies and are now experiencing significant increases in productivity and services.

Team resource expert Pat MacMillan discusses the characteristics of a high performance team and how to implement a new paradigm of leadership to bring any organization to greater efficiency.

The Wisdom Of Teams by Katzenback & Smith

The importance of teams has become a cliche of modern business theory, but few have a clear idea of what it means. In this new edition of their best-selling primer, Katzenbach and Smith try to impart some analytical rigor to the concept. Drawing on their experience as management consultants and a plethora of case studies at companies like Burlington Northern and Motorola, they cover such topics as the optimal size of teams, coping with turnover in team personnel and nurturing "extraordinary teams" rather than "pseudo-teams." Reacting against the touchy-feely interpersonal bent of discourse on teams, they emphasize hard-nosed principles of "performance, focus, and discipline," over the softer concerns of "communication, openness and 'chemistry.'" Teams, they argue, gel and achieve not by developing "togetherness," but by tackling and surmounting specific "outcome-based" challenges ("eliminate all late deliveries...within 90 days" rather than the vaguer "develop a plan for improving customer satisfaction."). Some of the authors' recommendations are reasonably precise and practical, but too many are nebulous truisms ("keep the purpose, goals, and approach relevant and meaningful") or weighed down by turgid consultant-ese ("integrating the performance goals of formal, structural units as well as special ad hoc group efforts becomes a significant process design challenge"). The case studies are better written, but it's not clear that these inspiring anecdotes of team triumph add up to a systematic doctrine. The book leaves the impression that teams ultimately just have to learn by doing.

Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson

Change can be a blessing or a curse, depending on your perspective. The message of Who Moved My Cheese? is that all can come to see it as a blessing, if they understand the nature of cheese and the role it plays in their lives. Who Moved My Cheese? is a parable that takes place in a maze. Four beings live in that maze: Sniff and Scurry are mice, non-analytical and nonjudgmental, they just want cheese and are willing to do whatever it takes to get it. Hem and Haw are "little people," mouse-size humans who have an entirely different relationship with cheese. It's not just sustenance to them; it's their self-image. Their lives and belief systems are built around the cheese they've found. Most of us reading the story will see the cheese as something related to our livelihoods--our jobs, our career paths, the industries we work in--although it can stand for anything, from health to relationships. The point of the story is that we have to be alert to changes in the cheese, and be prepared to go running off in search of new sources of cheese when the cheese we have runs out.